Welcome to the board Trybalance. I can't add too much more that wasn't already stated perfectly. Just wanted to say welcome and stick around, your posts are good ones. I look forward to reading more of them.
I will add this however. If you decide to become a baptized witness and later on down the road want to leave you will be in for alot of emotional pain and hurt that alot of us are experiencing due to shunning and selective conditional love. My wife posts here as Tinkerbell. She and I were forced to DA because we would not go to a JC meeting. I had previously discussed our cicumstances with the elders and asked for time to help Tink with her depression from losing her father to suicide and her mother battling cancer. Their answer in short was "to get over it" and let them, not "worldly professionals" help us. Tink has three brothers who were baptized, one DF'ed two faded out gradually, but they celibrate holidays, smoke, and are living life the way they see fit. They are all great guy's. The rest of the family that are active witnesses will still talk to them and have some limited association with them. Tink and I, however, have been totally shunned and no longer have any contact whatsoever with these other siblings. It is inconsistant behavour and selective shunning, hypocritical!
It hurts. Coming here to share in similar experiences helps heal the pain. I hope you never have to personnaly go thru this.
CC